The Problem with Being Too Positive

Is being too positive really a problem? More and more coaches and spiritual folk seem to be telling their followers that the only way to achieve higher vibrations is to remain positive all the time, no matter what. And if you’re not, you’re the problem, the block, the thing keeping you from abundance. This is artificial positivity.

Death - but not the physical kind.Aside:

I do a daily card pull, sometimes oracle cards, sometimes tarot cards. Today’s card was Death. It’s scary for a lot of people, but it’s not referring to actual, physical death. This card most often references transformation, rebirth, and moving on. It can be representative of embracing all of the aspects of yourself and your psyche, the good and the bad, which allows you to have the room for spiritual growth. I drew the card after writing this post, and it was too synchronous not to include it within the post.

Back to the topic at hand.

“But, wait, too positive?” you might be asking.

If you’re following a lot of different FLEB folks, it might just be considered the height of ascension, honestly. Kelly is far more eloquent than I on the subject of the Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand, so I encourage you to check out that post and many others throughout her site.

In a nutshell, many of the people espousing this belief system might shame you or tsk at you if you express even the slightest bit of negativity at any point. Because positivity will lead you to the promised land of abundance and your true, full life here in this reality.

The problem that I (and many others) see with this way of thinking is that it doesn’t leave much room for realism and pragmatic thinking. If you focus solely on the positive and never venture into some of the negatives, how will you ever understand all of the lessons this life is here to teach you?

As Gwynne points out:

What you ignore festers. What you refuse to confront because it’s in the dark scary places of your soul rots and mutates until you no longer recognize it as part of yourself, even though it is, always was, and always will be.”

You can read the full post on Gwynne’s profile – it’s definitely worth the visit for the truth bombs that she drops throughout.

Call it shadow work, call it mirror work, call it whatever you like. This type of deep delving is essential if you’re ever going to get whatever it is that you’re striving for.

We all want to get to that Nirvana of receiving all that the Universe has to shower down upon us, but it’s not all glitter and girlboss. There’s a lot of shit you’ll have to slog through, too, if you’re being true to yourself and to your soul work.

When you ignore the other side of the coin, does it matter what you’re really being so positive about?

That positive energy is never going to live up to its full potential if you can’t deal with any of the negative flip sides that are following you around.

Reality doesn’t go away because you only want to see the butterflies and unicorns. The butterflies and unicorns are fantastic, but they don’t exist in a vacuum.

Reality doesn't go away because you only want to see the butterflies and unicorns. The butterflies and unicorns are fantastic, but they don't exist in a vacuum. Click To Tweet

Don’t ignore your full reality because some “guru” or coach is telling you that you have to only be positive. If someone is shaming you for facing your reality head on, that person is not looking out for your best interests, no matter how much you’ve paid that person. There’s more work to do than simply reframing your thinking to keep it positive.

Positivity and encouraging positive thoughts completely has its place, but it isn’t everything.