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Get Yourself Grounded – A Little Bit of Why, Much More How

But why should you get grounded? Yeah, that’s a long answer. Let’s shortcut it a bit and I’ll say that grounding is all about helping yourself feel safe, secure, and rooted into the here and now. So it’s great when you’re feeling scattered or flighty or unsafe.

You can go through some complicated moves to get yourself grounded. You can do 20-minute guided meditations that walk you through a lush forest in the height of spring and get all kinds of grounded and that’s groovy. But if you’re grounding because you’re having an anxiety attack? Trust me when I tell you that you need something faster.

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So, here are some of my favorite quick ways to get grounded. Many of these you can do anywhere at any time.

1. Go Outside

Easy enough, this one. Go outside, if you can. Stand in the grass, put your hand on a tree, get barefoot. You don’t have to wait long for this to kick in. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and let Nature do some work. If you have some extra time, while you’re standing amongst Nature with your eyes closed, try to visualize roots sprouting from your feet, deep into the earth. Literally root yourself. 

2. Hand Over Heart

This one is perfect when you can’t get outside and you really don’t have the wherewithal to visualize much of anything. Put your hand over your heart and take five slow, deep breaths. The deep breathing and the hand over your heart work together to ground and calm you right away.

3. Crystals, Rocks, Stones

I’m a crystal hound, so this is one of my absolute favorite ways to ground. If you’ve got crystals available, take advantage. Some of the best for grounding:

 Hematite
 Black tourmaline
 Smoky topaz
 Smoky quartz
 Obsidian
 Onyx
 Clear quartz

In a pinch and no crystals on you? Grab any old rock or stone. They’re all grounding, I promise. They’re of the earth and they’ll help you to root yourself.

4. Essential Oils

Love me some essential oils. If you’re new to them, you need to read up before just throwing them on your body. I’ve been using them for 20 years and I’m still learning. Always dilute, don’t diffuse them around cats (cats cannot process EOs), and really figure out what you’re doing first.

Oils I like for grounding:

 Cedarwood (both Atlas and Virginia)
 Frankincense
 Myrrh
 Palo Santo
 Patchouli
 Sandalwood
 Vetiver
 Spikenard
 Lavender 

5. Smudging

I love me some smudging. It clears the energy and puts me right in my happy place, every single time. My two favorites for smudging are sage and Palo Santo, but incense can work, too. Now, you can’t smudge everywhere, which is where Florida water can come in. It’s not water from Florida, even though it sounds like it.  It’s actually alcohol, usually vodka, with essential oils mixed in and then left to get to know each other for a bit. You can buy some, but if you’re into essential oils, you can make your own much cheaper. BONUS: Florida water doubles as a killer perfume. 

6. Reiki

I find Reiki incredibly grounding. It clears energies and leaves me feeling centered and solid. But not everybody has access to Reiki every time that they need it, so it’s not always a fast emergency grounding technique. If you’re finding it difficult to ground through other means, though, you might find that a few sessions of Reiki help you to clear the way and ground on your own much more readily. If you’re interested, we can set up a remote session.

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So those are *my* favorite ways to ground – got more you can suggest? Put them in the comments!

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Self-care: My Theme for 2017

I don’t choose a word for the year. I don’t normally choose a theme, either. And I don’t remember when this year’s theme – self-care – first whispered into my awareness, but it did and continues to do so.

Self-care: My Theme for 2017

It’s a pretty big topic for me, caring for oneself, both as a personal topic and professionally speaking. There are a few clients for whom I write and self-care comes up now and again as a topic for them. I like that it does, honestly, because it’s something we don’t talk or think often enough about.

Merriam-Webster defines self-care as:

Merriam-Webster on self-care

As a definition, it’s not too bad. A bit clinical and lacking some of the more important features, though. But see, that’s the problem, because self-care is so very individualized and we all have to figure it out for ourselves.

Also, most people hear the phrase and automatically translate it to “selfish,” which is not the case at all.

You Write the Definition

So the good news (and a bit of the bad news) is that you define your own self-care. When you’re in charge of something that important, where do you start?

With the basics.

Are you eating? Hydrating? Moving your body? Taking care of your personal hygiene? That sort of stuff.

But here’s the thing. You can do every bit of that and more and still be neglecting your own self-care. I know I have. If you’re neglecting those basics, though, start there and don’t add on to it until you’re stable with the bare minimum.

Need or want some help with keeping basic self-care in mind? This interactive self-care flowchart is excellent. Use this if you’re numb, if you’re depressed, if you’re not sure you even want to care about self-care.

Basic Self-care vs. a More Involved Version

Alright, so basic self-care is covered. What does it take to keep you happy? To keep you productive? To really make life an enjoyable experience for you?

Or is there something about your life you want to improve? Do you want to eat better, exercise more, or tackle something else?

That’s where more advanced — and nebulous — self-care comes in. You’re really able to dig deeper into what it means to you to take care of yourself.

If you’re having trouble sorting this out, sit with it for a while. Journal about it. Meditate on it. Talk to your spirit guides. Go through a week of normal activity and keep the question in the back of your mind: Is this part of self-care for me?

I did that, in fact I’m still doing that. And I came up with my rough plan.

My (Rough) 2017 Self-care Plan

Basic self-care is the foundation.

Continue to meditate daily. Or close to daily. I’m not being incredibly strict with myself here, but it definitely makes me feel much better. It’s also when I tend to have the most communication with myself and my guides.

Set up a workable daily schedule. I work from home, but things get away from me. Work takes longer than I anticipate or tasks for the house take longer than I expect. Or I flit from one thing to another. It happens. But I’m learning to set and stick to a schedule for my day. It keeps me grounded and it helps me make sure I hit all the marks I want to hit. One of those marks being blogging for myself more regularly. The better I become at managing my schedule, the more time I’ll have to write for myself.

Move more. Adding more movement to my day is essential. I’m at a desk pretty much all day. My body, my mind, and my soul need this.

Include more self-Reiki into my life. I’m great at offering it to others, I just forget that it helps me, too.

Add more joy to my life. I enjoy my life, don’t get me wrong. But there are things that I enjoy doing that I haven’t done in a while or that I don’t do more regularly because they’re frivolous or they’re time-consuming. So this year, the idea is that I’m making more of those activities a priority. And if those things add joy to my life? Then they’re neither frivolous nor a time waster.

Whatever else strikes my fancy. I’m not naïve enough to believe I’ve wrapped everything up into a bow with this plan as it stands. There is far more that can and may fall under the self-care umbrella for me.

That’s about it. Your self-care plan can include as much or as little as you want and it can be as specific as you want it to be. What’s your plan look like?